It all comes out in the wash

It’s a simple analogy and one most people fail to realize when they make ridiculous choices. It seems we as humans are always quick to throw accusations, to believe the worst in people, to jump at an opportunity to point out someone else’s flaws, to take the high road when we haven’t a high road to bank on. We fail to remember all our decisions, our choices, our ruthless high and mighty actions, they all come out in the wash. We will find out what was said, we will hear what was done, we will learn all about the actions that were taken and it will leave a scar. If you are feeling this right now and thinking this is about you then you must have made some incorrigible decisions lately. Your guilty feelings are inevitably catching up with you. When you play the know it all, the self- righteous all about you cards without considering other people’s feelings and how it will affect their lives because you assumed things that just were not true, you played with a double-edged sword. It’s going to sting when the point pierces your skin as the other edge of the sword points back at you. It won’t be you that holds the scar within your heart, but the person you leveraged the fight against will forever feel that wound and you can’t form any plan that will take that pain away.

This is not just about disloyal friends or coworkers, because even your family can turn against you, launch attacks toward you, stand at their almighty helm and throw accusations your way. Your family, the people that should without fail have your back, be your biggest cheerleaders and think the best of you, they can leave the greatest scars imaginable. I think that these people that think they are above everyone, that think they have all the answers, that stand at the helm touting their greatness while disrespectfully attempting to diminish another’s character as a person will find one day that Karma is a real bitch.  It saddens me to bear witness to a person being treated so disrespectfully by their family when the person I see is one of the best people I know. This person has a heart of gold and would give the coat off their back for any of their family who needed it, yet all they give is disparaging words and arrogant tones in return. I have never been so disappointed in a group of people I once felt such immense respect for.

Maybe what should be remembered is that we are human beings, we all make mistakes, we all falter, and not one of us is perfect. Life is hard enough without those that we love adding to the anguish it sometimes brings. Having said that I can tell you I am not without blame when it comes to reeling from my own pain and forgetting that it doesn’t go away by diminishing someone else. Whatever hurt I hold from that person will never be fixed by airing their faults to the world. It is better to forgive and forget than to hold onto, harass and harm another. They already pay their penance for their choices; they do not need others to pile on to their grief. John 8:7 So, when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone.

It doesn’t matter if you are the wife, the mother, the father, the brother, the daughter, the son, the cousin, the friend, the coworker, or all of the above, you should remember the best way to heal is to forgive and the only way to treat someone is with respect and love.

Two wrongs have never made a right, and to assume has only ever made an ass of you and me. The arrogant hare didn’t win the race and defiling someone’s character only makes you the disgrace.